The Art of Reaction & Trusting Our Protectors

One of the beautiful behaviors of people is our need to protect. We don’t like bullies.  This becomes more the case the older we get.  There is something about seeing someone being treated terrible that we can’t stand.  Maybe it’s a new comer who is unjustly getting targeted, or it could be someone vulnerable who doesn’t have the means to stand up for themselves.  Either way, when you see opportunists attacking someone, you can be assured the protectors will come out if full force.

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Those of us in the arts industry know all too well the backlash an artist can receive because of their popularity.  Here you are doing your best work and putting all your energy into the art you are creating, and when it’s time to showcase to the world what you’ve created, the bottom-feeders come out of the woodwork.  They’re like sharks sneaking up on you from small and unsuspecting places.

Having been in and then out and then back in these environments I’ve learned a few things, and I’m going to give you a little insight on how to understand and work with the negative energy.

Beating by Devils WikimediaThe first thing to understand is people are not going to stop.  We can dream all day of the “what if” and how things “should be.”  There are people who gain energy from being positive and creating beautiful things, including beautiful relationships, and there are people who are energy vampires and they will attempt to use their negativity to tear you down.  In fact, I’m sure there are bottom-feeders reading this post right now who can’t wait to attack me for writing it.

Here’s the trick.  Trust people to be who they are.  If they’re known for attacking people to build themselves up then they’re always going to do so.  Now, since you’ve picked out the bottom-feeders and you know how they are going to react, you can create your own reactions–not in a defensive tone but in a tone and advocacy for the positive things your doing.  Just remind them and anyone listening of the good things your work is focused on.  What will happen?  One, they’re not getting the negative response to feed themselves, and, two, you’re giving people in your circles the opportunity to see the injustice.  It’ll show the clear avenue of negativity coming from the bottom-feeder.

Next you’ll start to see other people come to your defense.  The protectors will step up and say, “She’s doing good things for her people,” in effect, and “She’s trying to help,” more or less. They’re going to stand up for you.  Why?  Because you’ve helped them see the positive things you are doing.  We have to remember:  these bottom-feeders want people to only see the negativity.  Everything they do will always come back to something ugly.  They’re incapable of doing it any other way.   In response, we must be prepared to “show” and “describe” the positive aspects of our art.  When the protectors can see, meaning visualize, how you are making your community better, then they are more willing to champion your cause.

To a certain degree, exercising some savvy, you can set up these bottom-feeders for failure.  Just keep putting yourself out there.  At some point, they will attack you.  Remember how I said, “Trust people to be who they are.”  Then when they do so.  Take your opportunity to call the community to action.  Remind them of the good you’re doing and how you’re bettering the community.  It’ll leave the bottom-feeders getting attacked for being so negative, and in the process you gain the solidarity the bottom-feeders are trying to disrupt.

 

(The images used in this post were borrowed from Wikimedia and Wikipedia)

29 comments

  1. lunarpoet says:

    I would neither call them “bottom feeders”, nor “energy vampires”. I would not even come up with a name to honour their doing. But as you explained well it is important to call them out. To protect yourself and others.

    There are people that are literally sucking the energy out of conversations and debates and even try to pervert poetry. Some of them unintentionally (one hopes) others out of sheer malice, maybe those ones will not accept other people to be happy, because they have never granted themselves happiness.

    I don’t even want to look at their motivation too much or emphasize, but I think you have given some good rules in dealing with suchlike behaviour.

    Some of them come disguised, it is always useful to take a closer look, or let a trusted friend or kin look at it, if you smell anything fishy and are not sure how to reply.

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    • ohokeaho says:

      Thank you, Lunar. I agree some of them might not be aware of what they are doing. They may genuinely be so locked inside their psychosis to not know and be habitualized to tearing people down. I like how you give me insight into their condition in that they have never allowed themselves happiness. Well said, and a very interesting aspect to the condition. But yes I tend to steer clear of those individuals and sometimes it can hard to initially discern who is and isn’t going to be like that, but once they show their true colors I reroute myself in a different direction.

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  2. tylerbadham says:

    I love how you are saying one should stand out from the crowd by setting an example. Instead of harshly attacking those that bully you, but by creating an environment where all their negative energy is nullified. Doing so allows others to recognize what was wrong and then stand up for you because you were able to achieve such a peaceful resolution. I love it, thank you!

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    • ohokeaho says:

      Thank you Tyler. It was a timely topic. Been feeling the haters lurking doing their thing. Positive solutions are the best. I say it’s time we try something different. We’ve been communicating through the reproduction of negativity and violence since time in memorial. I think we’ve evolved to a point where we can handle a different form of communication.

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  3. great post! “Here’s the trick. Trust people to be who they are. If they’re known for attacking people to build themselves up then they’re always going to do so.” reminded me of that saying “when people tell/show you who they are, believe them” — words to live by for sure!!

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  4. I love your bare-knuckle writing Oscar- once again you are right on the mark. Whether they’re wearing winged helmets or wing-tip shoes those vampires -sharks in leisure suits have always been snapping at the heels of creative types and stealing the wealth they create. Your words shed light on their evil deeds. Thanks

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  5. Your posts are always very insightful.

    Agreed… expect “energy vampires” to be just that! Don’t waste energy arguing but rather let them show their true colors which will make them less attractive to others in the long run.

    Thank you!

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